//the waiting room//

I don’t know who will see this, if anyone will find it remotely interesting, or if it will speak to where you’re at. I don’t know who reads my blog…all I know is that I have some 2000 people who see these posts and think I’m an ok, kinda sorta funny, 29 year old and I love and appreciate that so much. Seriously, when I started this blog, I thought I would just write a few things and maybe someone would be encouraged. But when you get emails that ask “When are you going to write more? This once in a blue moon thing isn’t going to cut it”, that means the world.

I don’t know about you, but I’m a terribly impatient person. I can’t do it. I can barely wait for my water glass to be refilled and waiting for something worth so much more makes my skin crawl. I can’t. I literally can’t do it.

I’m a graduate student at an incredible university, that even with all its quirks and weirdness, I feel like I’m supposed to be here. I have the best friends. I have the best church and life group. I love it here. I love Norman, Oklahoma and don’t want to leave. But…< *don’t you hate this? I always hate the “but” that usually comes after all the good and great things someone has pointed out about you*> I’m still waiting… 

Waiting is just… the literal worst. No one likes it. No one likes waiting for someone to call. No one likes waiting for money to hit the bank account. No one likes swiping their credit card, hoping they can buy the bare minimum groceries sitting in the basket. No one likes waiting for test results. No one likes waiting. What I’ve recently realized is there is a lot of life that happens while you wait. I’ve decided to document it and hopefully, you get a laugh or two out of it.

While you’re waiting, take time to…

  1. Breathe. You can’t change what will or won’t happen. By you holding your breath, all you’re doing is causing yourself internal pain and your facial color to change. Stop it. Breathe.
  2. Sleep. Did you know sleep is important to your daily functioning? No? Allow me to demonstrate its importance with this: my friend Katie and I were talking the other night and she said “Linds… I was so tired the other day, I took a video of me driving home. Look at my eyes…one of them is drooping so low, it looks like my eye is closed! Honestly, when I figured out I parked my car outside my house, I don’t know how I even got home”. Y’all. I’ve been where Katie has been. In fact, while I was writing my comprehensive exam, I got maybe 3-4 hours of sleep every night for a solid 3 weeks. The week the exam was due, I had 3 days where my total sleep amount was 8 hours. 8 HOURS FOR 3 DAYS. Y’all, my whole life was a miracle during February. I really should not have been allowed to drive a car, cut vegetables, or talk to people with that little sleep. Take time to sleep.
  3. Talk to someone. I don’t know about you, but I tend to bottle my emotions up because I’m the happy go lucky girl who loves to support and celebrate others. I love listening to people. I love to laugh and make people laugh. I love laughing until I’m crying. I love how infectious laughter is…BUT, I’m also human, and every happy go lucky girl has her limits. I am so weak, you guys. I am tired. And when I am tired, I cry. When I am weak, the happy go lucky Linds goes away and in her place is the real, raw Linds that no one but my sisters and parents and maybe 2 friends have seen. I knew I needed to talk to someone when I found myself crying over my notes in the middle of the library at OU. It was like all of a sudden, I was noticing my notes were all smeared. I was losing my edge. The greatest thing was in my phone, I have several people I could reach out to. When I let it out, and my friend let me just cry and said “it sucks, but you’re stronger than this… you can do it”, I felt like it was ok to be my true self, happy go lucky or weak. You’re stronger when you have that support system. Let people in. It’s good for your soul and for your sanity.
  4. Eat and drink. The last 2 weeks have been horrifyingly awful for me. I went to Whataburger on Saturday night and couldn’t eat all of my burger and fries… AND IF YOU KNOW ME, YOU KNOW THIS IS A TRAVESTY. Why? Stress kills not only my vibe, but my appetite. Luckily, my friend Dylan was like “Ummm I know you didn’t eat lunch and you probably ate half a donut for breakfast. You’re eating dinner. Do it.” I’ve forgotten to drink water. If it weren’t for Hailey and Jess checking in to make sure I’m still mentally aware of what’s happening, I would probably be very dehydrated. Don’t be that person who neglects all the important things because you feel you can’t make it. You can, and in order to do so, you need food and drink.
  5. Celebrate…but carefully. I’m all about the celebration. I love it all. But when I’m feeling lost or hurt or absolutely like my future is so unsettled, I tend to go overboard. And yes, I’m talking about alcohol. It’s a vice that temporarily makes me bold and even more happy than I am…keyword is temporary. When I wake up after a night of drinking that went too far, I feel guilty and dirty. It’s like I know my limits and went so far past them that it literally causes me pain the next day. Luckily, this hasn’t happened in what seems like ages, but has really been a few months. I went out recently and had a blast. I had 2, maybe 3 drinks, and the rest of the time, I drank water and just laughed with my friends. I didn’t feel guilty at all. I actually felt like if I hadn’t gone out with friends, I would’ve been worse. Worry and stress keep you high strung and physically hurting. When you’re able to release that and just be you, its so rewarding when you go home and fall asleep.
  6. Hug someone. I need hugs in order to function. Some people need acts of service. Others need gifts. Me? If you see me, just hug me. I remember when my parents came to Norman the week my exam was due and when I saw my dad standing in my house, I fell apart. I stood there and wept. And what did my dad do? Just hugged me. Just told me he was so proud of me for what I’ve accomplished in a year’s time. My mom just sat next to me while I printed out my basketball ticket. I was emotionally on edge and ready to lose it that my parents and sister just let me. Up until this point, I’m pretty sure my family has only seen me lose it a few times, but this time, they didn’t tell me not to. They didn’t tell me to pull it together. They just hugged me. Sometimes, that’s all you need.
  7. Encourage…someone else. I know. It’s hard when you’re facing a freaking huge challenge yourself to change your focus to someone else. You should take the time to look around you and see who’s needing encouragement. Most of the time it’s the person who’s writing my name on my Starbucks cup. You can tell people have overlooked them and just wanted their coffee. I’ve started being intentional when I’m at the market or Starbucks. I make sure my phone is in my bag or pocket and always ask how they are. Friday, I was at Q’Doba and the guy helping me was run down and frustrated. The group in front of me was oblivious to the fact he was trying to serve them because they were on their phones. When I got to the register I said “Are you doing ok?” and he just stopped and looked at me and said “you’re the first person who’s asked me that…I’m ready for this week to be over… Today sucked”. I simply smiled and said “Yeah, I feel you on that. It’s been a week for sure”. He looked at me and said “You know what… just take this. It’s on the house. Are you always like this?” I said “I’m trying to be.” Y’all. You don’t know who needs to be acknowledged but you should take time to.
  8. Pray. I wish I could say I pray all the time and my heart life is in perfect condition. It’s not. I’d be lying if I said it was perfect. Actually, if I’m being honest, my prayer life sucks. Like I pray, but it’s the usual “Hey God, it’s me, Linds. Keep me from hurting people using only my words today. K. Thanks”. It’s nothing substantial. I put an expectation on myself for April. My faith has been a little lacking lately, so I told the Lord that April was my month. It’s my month for amazing results and a for sure YOU GET TO GRADUATE on my exam and not just any job, but THE job on OU’s campus. I told the Lord that I have the faith to see those things come to pass. Have they yet? Nope. But it’s still April. This is the first time in a long time that I look to the Lord with this confident expectation (hello… it’s called HOPE) that God is going to answer me, but in a better way than what I even know. Did you know it’s completely appropriate to tell the Lord your expectations? He wants that. He wants you to be so open and vulnerable with him that you just naturally spill it. So, I’ve been incredible vulnerable with the Lord. I believe he knows what he’s doing with me. He knows why the time is taking longer than expected for my test results. He knows why I haven’t heard anything for 2 of the jobs I’m so excited and passionate about. He knows. So why am I still so uptight about waiting? Because even though I know it’ll all work out the way it’s supposed to, since its not up to me, it drives me absolutely crazy. This is why we are not good left to our own devices. This is why as human beings we need someone to contend and fight for us. Because us fighting for ourselves would be a complete and utter nuisance. This is why prayer is a necessity to this waiting life.

When you’re in the waiting room, it’s not time to freak out. It’s actually the best time to breathe, to focus and to get yourself ready for what’s coming. The waiting room is the last stop before the next phase begins. When you leave the waiting room, your life changes in an instant. It isn’t going to be the same after that. So, while you wait, no matter how long it takes, think about all the life you’ve lived. Think about all the lessons you’ve learned, the friends you’ve made and the moments you walked away with. I guarantee you, what’s next will be even better than what you’ve just went through. And guess what? If you did horrible in this waiting room, there will be another, maybe not as long, but another one for sure. And because you’ve been through this one, it’ll be a bit easier to rest, pray, focus and prepare.

Don’t get too hurried in the waiting room… Just trust me… Don’t.

me? saying yes to an adventure? DEFINITE MIRACLE.

**Thanks Fairy Godmother… for coming through again**

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//season of unreasonable optimism//

I’ve been challenging myself for the last couple weeks. It all started with a message my pastor and his wife spoke 2 weeks ago. It was about Freedom. As I sat in my seat, my face started burning (that happens with me. When Jesus starts speaking to me, my face gets hot and my ears turn red like they do when I know someone is talking about me… it’s a quirk. Thanks God 😉). It was as though this message was just for me. I have a choice about how I live. Sin keeps me from experiencing my relationship with Jesus to the fullest. I don’t want that at all. Am I perfect? No way. I will never be perfect, but I can strive to be a follower of Christ and by doing so, anything that doesn’t bring Jesus praise is not something I want to be a part of. I realized in that moment, sure, I was living a good life, but nothing about it really screamed “I’m a follower of Jesus”. If I’m being 100% honest with all of you, I’ve always hidden my faith away because I never wanted to offend anyone. Now, I’m an adult. I have every right to have my own opinions and thoughts on things and why wouldn’t I wear my faith like my favorite sweater in winter? I have nothing to hide behind. I have no reason to hide my faith at all. In fact, it’s because of my faith that I am who I am. I am a happy, peaceful, and genuine person. I love people. I love to celebrate people. I love to share my life with whoever I am around. That’s because of Jesus in me. I’m able to love people well because I know he loves me and no matter what I’ve done before, no matter if friends or anyone has considered me an afterthought, he chose me… he chose me first. It was within that message that Chris said “You know, the people who are the most free are the ones who have nothing to hide. They live life in vulnerability…” So, to continue this journey, I’m about to get real vulnerable with a couple thousand of you who read my blog on a regular basis. Here goes…

There is something wrong with me. I am a ridiculously happy person about 6 out of 7 days a week. There’s always 1 day where I wake up extremely late and it puts me in a mood…but we’re all allowed 1 day right?! I love people. I love serving them. I love being with my friends who’ve become extended family. I am a hopeful person…for everyone but myself. *insert cries of “ouch!” and “YIKES” here*

I can pray all day long for my friends and family. I can pray peace for you. I can pray hope for you. I can HOPE WITH YOU FOR WHATEVER IT IS YOU NEED…but when it comes to me, I have a problem. I think I have something wrong with my heart and head because they never match up. I had a friend come up to me a couple weeks ago and he said “I just really need you to pray for me. I know you pray for me already, so will you? I need some help here in this situation…” My response: HECK YES. Of course I will. I’m on it! I’ve often said I’m like my mom. When my mom prays for things, stuff happens. And by stuff, I don’t mean like “oh, this situation just happened the way I needed it to”… I mean “Holy moly, the ONLY WAY this situation could have worked out this way is BECAUSE OF JESUS… Mom has been praying”… I can pray that way for my friends. But when it comes to me… there’s a disconnect. I got some clarity on this yesterday in church. I have a hope problem because my hope isn’t where it needs to be. When we place our hope in anything but Jesus, we are essentially hopeless. We start to get worried, anxious, fearful, and putting ourselves through ridiculous, trivial things that none of us should be going through. Did you know hope is, by definition, the expectation that something good is coming? Seriously. That’s what hope is. That no matter what my situation looks like, or what I’m facing, OR WHETHER OR NOT I’VE SEEN ANYTHING COMING MY WAY,  there is good coming for me. That’s who God is. My problem is placing my hope in myself of course but it’s also because my emotions have decided to run wild and they aren’t in alignment with what I truly believe. If I say I believe that God is my provider, then my emotions that tell me “God won’t have a job for you. You’ll be poor and homeless and back in Tulsa with your parents” can’t have a place in my mind. If I truly were to listen to the people, the nay-sayers if you will, in my life who constantly question my sexual preference because I’m almost 30 and still single, my emotions would constantly be stressed to the max. Yes, I’m single. Yes, I’m almost 30 (THANK GOD FOR NEW BEGINNINGS, AM I RIGHT?!) and Yes, I’m a woman waiting for the man God has set for me. I don’t think there’s a problem with that. I don’t think there is a problem with a woman being so sure in who she is in Christ that she steps out in her calling and makes a move. I’m not perfect, but I know for a fact, beyond a shadow of a doubt that I’m meant to be in Norman and meant to be at OU and meant to be at my church. Imagine if we listened to all the voices who don’t align their voices with God… Can you imagine how much more messed up we would be?? I’d rather listen to Jesus who knows me through and through, the good, the bad, and the ugly, than listen to every slanderous and ridiculous statement that people say. 

So here is me aligning my emotions and thoughts with my Savior:

I am a child of God, saved with a purpose and marked for such a bright and glorious future.
I am surrounded on all sides by a God who loves me and considers me first, even when I fail him and consider him last.
He is my provider. The one who sees all, who knows all, and before I even take a step, he has my path well designed.
He is with me always. I may feel alone, but I’m never alone. I’ve found the one whom my soul loves and cherishes. I’ve found someone who is better than any person on this planet. I’ve found such a love that I cannot even explain. When I feel so confused or hurt or broken, he is right there, walking with me through it all.
He has someone for me. I may not know who he is, or where he is, but that’s not a problem. If the God of the universe cares for me and every detail of my life, then he cares the same for the man he has for me. Why should I worry about that? He knows what my heart needs more than I do and I’m so thankful.
He has my finances. If he is truly my provider, then he knows what job I need. He knows what people I need around me. He knows where I am going to be stationed. He knows. He truly knows and cares about me to do this.
I’m not second choice, third choice, or more. I’m first choice to him. Before I ever chose him, he saw me, named me, formed me and shaped my heart. Gave me all these incredible gifts to use and serve people. He knew every decision I would make and still loves me even if those decisions were wrong. He’s caught every tear I’ve ever cried. He’s treasured every laugh. He’s heard every song I’ve ever sung and every word I’ve ever written on paper. He’s held me when I’ve felt so awkward and alone. He’s led me when no one has been there to lead me. He’s challenged me when I’ve gotten comfortable. He’s allowed the waves to get a bit higher for me, all the while still right next to me, grasping my hand.
He wants me to be so Unreasonably Optimistic that I take him at his word. His word is life to our bones. His word is full of promises that are supposed to set us apart from the world. We are supposed to be so unreasonably optimistic that when issues come up or problems or whatever, that we can look at them, and say “Yeah, I see that, but my God is bigger. He’s greater and I believe what he says about me. I believe that everything I need, he will provide. I believe in the midst of trial, he’s my advocate. I believe I’m covered by his love and favor and anyone who comes against me, comes against God. This isn’t my battle. It’s God’s.” <Can you imagine?? If we all started speaking faith and hope like this in every situation? Man, the world would change…>

I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a God who loves his children so so much that he is absolutely willing to do anything, anything,  for his kids. That’s the God I serve. The God who makes me so unreasonably optimistic that it seems fake to everyone else. I love people, and I love them so well that some, who have never experienced Jesus, probably think I’m a liar or fake or whatever and that’s ok. My job isn’t to convince anyone that I am who I am. My job is just to love people and by doing so, I hope they are able to see Jesus in me.

So from here on out, if there’s a struggle in your mind and heart and there’s conflict, go to God. Find where the conflict is and speak truth to it. Laugh in the face of the lie and speak truth…and get on the path of being so unreasonably optimistic that people are convinced you’re crazy and want to join you on this journey.

 

 

 

//linds the adventurer: part 1//

I am a creature of habit. I live by what my calendar says and by what time the alarm clock goes off in the morning. I live like an adult. It’s how I’m wired, ya know? I’ve never been one to just say yes at the drop of hat to fun things. Going into 2016, one of the things I told the Lord was that I want to do things I normally would say no to. I was tired of being boring. I looked at my life and up until this point, the most daring thing I’ve done is move to Norman. NORMAN. IT’S NOT EVEN A HUGE MOVE! But, that was it. I looked even further back through pictures and was surprised that I didn’t have more photos to commemorate the accomplishments I’ve done. I don’t have photos with my friends, or life group, or even from when my family would come to town. So, I made up my mind, that if the opportunity presented itself and if I had the funds to just get out of town or go to a concert, or change something about myself, I’d do it. I would do it and not think about what I would miss back at home, but I would relish the fact that I did something so far outside my comfort zone. Here’s a simple example: I’ve had my hair the same way for awhile now… So last week, I added bangs. And you know what? I felt a little bit more confident. Amazing what something simple like adding bangs can do for you… 🙂

before the hair change...

before the hair change…

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and after… 🙂

Well, it happened.

If you’ve known me for any length of time, you know I am a freak about all things Disney. I love Disney movies, the songs, every character, EVERYTHING… I love Disney World. I love Disneyland. I want to live in Cinderella’s castle and pretend its my kingdom. Weird? I don’t care. I guess I blame my parents for raising me as a kid with a wild imagination. My parents never hindered the creative process. When they heard me talking to myself while I played with Barbies or my Disney figurines, they never told me to stop. In fact, they’d probably join in with me. My mom never told me any of my stories were unrealistic or silly. She told me to keep drawing and creating! And my favorite childhood memories revolve around going to the movies at the movie theater. My mom and dad took me to see Bambi and Little Mermaid. My dad took me on one of our father/daughter dates to see The Jungle Book and all I remember is getting to ride in the front seat of dad’s Infinity G20, listening to Billy Joel. I remember watching Disney movies with my parents and loving every minute. The first time I walked through the gates at Disney World, I was 10 years old and I still remember wanting to sprint up Main Street U.S.A. and just stare at Cinderella’s Castle. The best part was, my mom planned our trip and got us reservations at Cinderella’s Royal Table. We got to go inside the castle and meet all the characters and eat breakfast with them. I remember the weeks before our Disney trip and Jess and I decorating manila envelopes with “Money for Disney World” on it. All our chore money went toward that trip. I know we probably stressed my parents out more than they would admit, but I remember the feeling of walking into the parks like it was yesterday. I remember the day we left as the saddest day I’d ever witnessed.

That’s the magic of Disney. So, now, being 29, and trying to make myself adventure a little bit more, when one of my best friends, Dylan,  called me and my friend Donovan and explained he found cheap tickets to Orlando for the weekend, my instant response was “YES. Don’t care how much it costs… I’m going!” I think I even surprised myself because I NEVER DO THAT! I never just say “Ok, sure. Let’s spend money and go to Orlando and stay at a cheap hotel and go to the happiest place on earth”. I was surprised and better yet, I felt so peaceful saying yes. It probably sounds crazy that I find this whole weekend kind of spiritual, but I do.

As we drove to Dallas at 4am on Friday, February 12th, I was listening to a song that we’ve been singing for the last couple weeks at church. Part of the song simply says “You have given everything my heart could ever need and all you ask is I believe. So I am resting safe inside your promise to provide and nothing could ever change your love, you love for me”. This trip is symbolic for many reasons (yep, many. That’s why this is part 1). As I was driving, I realized God has always given me everything I’ve ever needed. He always provides. He always has my best in mind and he never asks me to do anything but believe. He just wants me to believe… What I keep realizing is that I have control issues. I have issues believing something so simple when I know it to be true! I have issues with the simple “I believe you Jesus” part. Why is it so tough for me to just say “yes, Jesus. Whatever you have for me, I’m ready. Let’s do this”. You know, when I was less of an adult, the saying yes part wasn’t hard at all. I just jumped at the chance and did it. Mission trip for an extended amount of time? OK! DONE. Sign me up. Packing food boxes for the hungry? Yes please. Want to volunteer for church events, the worship team and youth group? I will rearrange my schedule to do it all. But now that I’m approaching 30, it’s like I’ve lost the simplistic yes. So moral of the story: no matter how old you are, you should be able to say yes to the opportunities Jesus places in front of you. Will it be hard? maybe. Will it make you feel a little different? probably so. But, will Jesus provide for you every step of the way and walk with you through it all even if you have panic/anxiety attacks? You better believe it.

So step 1 of being a better adventurer: just say yes.

me? saying yes to an adventure? DEFINITE MIRACLE.

me? saying yes to an adventure? DEFINITE MIRACLE.

//Thoughts on…Valentine’s Day//

<<Author’s note… I wrote this yesterday and my internet wouldn’t post it… 😦 So here it is a day later… Enjoy!!!>>

 

Ok.

I know. It’s a commercialized holiday that is slightly missing the point just a little because if you think about it, if you only use ONE DAY to celebrate your significant other, you kinda suck… You should probably work that out. 🙂 I kid… well, kinda. But seriously, I’m the type that grew up in a loving home where my dad had 4 Valentines. And he never missed a moment to shower us with love, fun and surprises. The greatest part was, it wasn’t just on Valentines day. My dad is notorious for leaving random notes in my bags if I stay at their house. He will leave a note on the mirror my sisters share in their bathroom. He will leave notes, cards, and my mom’s favorite chocolate all the time for her just to let her know he’s thinking about her. That’s why, to me, Valentine’s is a little absurd. When you’ve had the privilege of seeing what a LIFE of love looks like, one holiday doesn’t do it justice!

Now, I have a friend (I call her a friend, but we’ve only spoken on the phone once and chatted on Twitter, but I consider her a friend) who wrote on her blog about funny Valentine’s dates… I contributed. My Valentine’s date was a MAJOR fail at the age of 19 where the guy just needed a ride to his REAL DATE across town and he knew I had a car and we were after all “friends”. I look back and think ‘that’s really funny and will grace the pages of my book someday’ but in that moment it sucked. It sucked because just months before, I was dumped by my boyfriend who invited me back to his hometown for Thanksgiving and then as soon as we get back, I’m single. The hurt I felt. The embarrassment. It sucked! I thought of what I did wrong the entire time and didn’t know what to do to fix it. He was my first ever real boyfriend and I lost him. I look back and now know there’s nothing I could’ve done. I was (and still am) a great girl. I had so much going for me and loved life and especially loved having a built in friend to hang out with. But when that was so quickly taken away, it made me not like this holiday so much.

I’m now 27 and single, just like at 19. The difference… I’ve grown up and matured a whole heck of a lot. I found some cards on Pinterest that made me laugh so hard at this funny holiday… Just think, if you need a laugh type “funny valentine’s day cards” into google and laugh until you cry. It’s a good remedy! I promise…

 

//thoughts on: singleness//

So, I’m starting a new section on the blog. It’s going to be all about “thoughts on:” whatever subject is most popular or whatever I’m facing right now. Let’s get to the point shall we…

Earlier today I posted a link to an article that a very young twenty-something wrote about singleness. Let me preface, I am a huge believer that singleness should be experienced in life. I believe that singleness is a great and wonderful moment in life that should be embraced. I’m not saying that it’s easy. Good Lord, it has it’s moments! But the point is, singleness is a moment in life that a person learns the most and experiences the most.

I am 27 and single and anytime my trusted and faithful magazine, Relevant Magazine, posts something on relationships (whether with God or humans) I read it. Why? Because I want to take advantage of every moment and opportunity I have to learn and grow. I was thinking, “Huh. ‘What God can do with Singleness’…Sounds interesting.” but as I read on, I was surprised. Here are my thoughts… (if you haven’t read the article, I recommend you do so you can see what exactly I’m talking about)

1. The Author is …. 23. Yes. You heard (read) that correctly. Now listen all you twenty-three year olds who think you know more than I do about relationships and singleness. There is no way in your short little life that you know more than I do. What you know is what you have experienced. If you have had the opportunity to experience multiple relationships, good for you. My question for you: what exactly have you learned about yourself from those experiences? I’ve dated a few guys in my life. Each of them taught me and showed me something about myself. The first guy showed me just how naive I was. I believed that I would fall madly in love and because he said those three words first, it seemed that my dream was happening at 19. Later that year, I experienced heart break. I learned that there are some guys who, like me, hadn’t dated before and saying the words didn’t mean they really meant it. It showed me I had to toughen up. The several dates I had after that were for revenge. I wanted to hurt that boy who exposed a weakness in me. Those dates actually showed me the desperation I had in me to be liked, to be wanted, and to be accepted by the male population. There comes a time when your experiences are trying to show you something. I like to think that it’s God’s way of saying “hey, do you see this? I can help you if you let me. I can mend those broken pieces and I can help you grow in a better way.” Whether you’re 23 or 33, what have you learned from your experiences? What have you noticed about yourself? Have you pushed those experiences aside because ‘I just can’t deal with that right now’ or have you been staring at it for awhile wondering what to do next? Experience is a HUGE teacher if you let it.

2. Sell by dates … Sell by dates. I hate this term. This was the point in the article where I really wanted to reach through the screen and punch the 23 year old author in her little face. When I read ‘sell by date’ I saw ‘dead on arrival’ or ‘SUPER EXPIRED’. This girl is 23 and she thinks she’s approached her sell by date?! Ummm, what does that mean for me? Good lord, you should purchase a tiny coffin for my dream of being married and having a family! I exaggerate obviously, but here is another problem. Who is this poor girl listening to? You know, most of the time, when I’m feeling bad about myself for being single it’s because I’ve been listening to my other single friends moan and whine about not having someone. Or I’ve been watching too many romantic comedies where the lead girl is struggling to find herself, but either way, the problem is with ME. If anyone tells you that you’re approaching your sell by date, they’re an idiot and should be slapped! God doesn’t believe in sell by dates. He doesn’t operate the way the world does. God sees someone who is messed up and thinks “boy, do I have a plan… They don’t even know what I’ve got up my sleeve!” When you listen to the people around you, you should be keenly aware of what is being said. What you let in your ears takes its place in your mind and whenever you’re resting, having a quiet, relaxing moment at home, that thought will come back and mess with you. The people you hang around with greatly determine your attitude and demeanor. Think about that next time you have a pity party. Make the necessary changes and move on.

3. Are you embarrassed? … If you’re embarrassed by singleness, I’m embarrassed for you. You are missing out on PRIME OPPORTUNITIES to grow, experience life and prepare for what’s to come. If you want to be married, you should be taking every moment now to start practicing what you want to carry into your relationship. For me, I want to be a great wife, but that doesn’t come over night. I pray for my future husband every morning and night. I read my bible every day and spend time just being with God. I want to be a great cook and baker when I have kids, so I practice! Even though it’s just me in my little apartment, I cook and bake and experiment and make notes on what works and what doesn’t. I want to be smart with money, so I live on a budget. I go over receipts and again, make notes for the next month. I’m not saying that “you should be doing exactly what I’m doing” but I’m using these moments to get things figured out. I live on my own and I pay my own bills. I’ve learned so much in the last year than ever before and the best advice my close friends keep giving me is take advantage of this time! So if you’re embarrassed about being single, you really have other things to be embarrassed about. Right now, I’m probably most embarrassed that I was crying on the gym floor the other morning because I was listening to a great podcast by Judah Smith and having a deep conversation with one of my sisters and I couldn’t finish my ab circuit. Who saw me? the entire group of Crossfit Sky people. Yeah, there are other things to be embarrassed about. Trust me.

4. the 5 things the young twenty-something says we can do vs what you really want to do… Listen, while the young author makes some good points, they are very elementary. Here’s what you’re really going to do…the same thing you’ve been doing. And that’s cool. If something works, why change it? Right? For me, I think it’s important to figure out just what you’re looking for. I have a double sided list of what I’m looking for in my future spouse that’s written on an old grocery list page. I wrote it after I felt like God was challenging me to trust him. I remember it perfectly. It hit me all at once, that soon, sometime in the distant future, me riding by myself in my car won’t just be me riding in my car. My car is my safe haven. It’s where I pray. It’s where I shout and cry and sing super loud and talk to God. And in a moment, my “trust challenge” escalated from I sorta kinda trust God to Holy Crap I need to get it together because I really want to trust God for the right person for me. When I wrote it all out, I had tears running down my face and lacing my fingers as I wrote. Figuring out what you really want in someone is a huge thing. It’s something precious and beautiful and sure, maybe not all the things I want will be in someone right off the bat, but I believe that God knows exactly what I want and need. Trusting God is hard but it’s beautiful and when you have a moment like that, you never forget it. My goal in life isn’t to get married and have kids, although that is at the top of my list. My goal is to know God. I want to know God more. I want to be so wrapped up in all he is. To have that happen I don’t need 5 steps. I just need God. Get on your face and figure out for yourself what you’re supposed to be doing right now and don’t let anyone take that away from you.

I know this was long, but these are my thoughts… If you disagree, that’s ok! I’m not worried about that. That article I read helped me remember what I believe about singleness. Let this be something that helps you remember what you believe about it. Have a conversation about it. Test the waters. Do something different. Living life is supposed to be fun and exciting. Don’t let the young twenty-somethings tell you any different.

Linds

“So…What did you do last night?”

This used to be a question I hated being asked. Not because I did anything crazy… (That was my freshman year in college), but I didn’t like this question because a lot times, I did nothing. NOTHING. I would stay home and read and hang out with my sisters, but when they got social lives, I was at home with my parents. No big thing! I love being a home body. It just means I have to make sure I’m balancing being at home with going and doing something active. So… ASK ME WHAT I DID LAST NIGHT!

Yes, I went to see a movie… and not just any movie… but the ONE DIRECTION “This Is US” movie. And I have to say, I get why girls every where love these boys…

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They’re cute. They know how to have fun. They seem some what ‘normal’. And they’re BRITISH/IRISH. WHAT?!?! ((all girls everywhere just did the girl “sighhhhhhhhh” thing. I did. I’ll admit it. They’re super cute and fun and who wouldn’t love to watch this!))

First of all-I love movies like this. It shows you the inner workings of an industry that is otherwise COMPLETELY HARD to break into. These guys got lucky. And they know it. They all went to the X Factor in Britain and all got cut, but within 10 minutes, Simon Cowell, the genius that he is, put them together as a group. And it works. From the first opening shot, these dudes are hilarious and fun! They don’t take themselves too seriously, which is refreshing. A lot of times, you wonder if people really are the way they seem. These guys are just a bunch of goofballs that are having fun with ‘their mates’. The great thing about Louis, Zayn, Niall, Harry and Liam is that they come from normal, tough, working family backgrounds. Each of them come from the working class. Harry worked in a bakery with a bunch of old ladies. Louis worked at Toys R Us and said that any time there was a “hawt mum ’round, I’d make sure I was on this isle” and starts playing the keyboards that are attached to the wall. Zayn is the only boy in his family and within the movie, you see him anxiously awaiting a phone call. I don’t want to give it all away, but if I have a son, I would love for him to have the care and sensitivity that Zayn has. ((SPOILER: He buys his family a new house. It’s bigger than any house they’ve ever lived in or ever owned. His mom, excuse me, MUM starts crying about how proud she is of him. I’d be lying if I didn’t shed a few tears)).

Secondly-movies like this are exciting and costs MUCH LESS than an actually ticket to their show… not saying I wouldn’t spend the money, because I would. Heck, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy the Justin Beiber movie! These movies are meant to inspire and show you the inner workings of what it takes to make it. What I loved about each of these guys, they get a moment where they are able to say what they’re really thinking. One of the best things about Liam (whom Hailey has deemed the one for me) is what he says about being a normal guy with an extraordinary opportunity. Liam is talking about girls and what runs through his mind. “I keep thinking, does she like me for me or does she like me because of what I do? And if it is about what I do, what about when I’m not doing it anymore? Will she still like me or will she leave? These are very real questions I find myself thinking”. I loved hearing that! A lot of times, girls are the ones who are portrayed as asking too many questions or thinking too much about something, but knowing that a guy could be thinking something like that, makes me feel not so “girly”. Fact is and my friend Chet said it best, “Guys and girls are the same, but very different”. We all think about the same things, but because we’re us, we have different opinions. But hearing Liam, a one direction boy, say that he thinks about that often, makes me and all my insecurities calm down just a bit.

Go see the movie. Do it. It’s worth it and so fun! 🙂 I was the oldest one in my theater last night, but didn’t care. I know all the words and sang along with the guys. It’s all worth it! 🙂

LOVE Y’ALL. HAVE A GREAT 3 DAY WEEKEND! 🙂

Linds

Summer Favorite Things…

Oprah’s not the only one with favorite things. I’ve been putting a list together of my favorites for the summer and I’m not sure why, other than the fact that if I find things that work, I want to tell everyone! ((I’m like Buddy the Elf. I get excited and want to SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOF TOPS…or the gum drop forest…whatever, it’s all the same!))

1. Pinterest. (http://pinterest.com/lindsay_davis/boards/)

If you’re a girl and you’re not obsessed with Pinterest…WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?! Actually, I should say good for you for not getting sucked into the blackhole that is Pinterest. I’m telling you, once you start, you won’t be able to stop. I have tried numerous experiments from the different “pins” and some of them are awesome. I’ve recently changed my diet and a lot of the ideas I get are from Pinterest. One of my favorites is healthy Pineapple Whip. If you know me at all, I’m a DISNEY FREAK. I love everything about Disney World and Disneyland. I freak out when a new Disney Princess breaks out into the scene. And the food at Disney… GOODNESS GRACIOUS. It’s delicious and amazing. The Pineapple Whip is out of this world, but very much not as healthy as you think. The healthy version I found is 3 ingredients: frozen pineapple chunks, almond milk and honey. Blend it together and you have an instant treat. ((Just so you know…you’ll have to monitor how much you consume…because you’ll want to eat it all…at once… while studying… or for dinner… whatever the occasion, you’ll want to eat it all!)) There are lots of other fun things, so you should give it a try… 🙂

2. Post-it Notes

I’m a freak about note taking. I always have a notepad, or journal with me because I hate forgetting things…like I did today. When it comes to scheduling, or meetings, or just random thoughts, you always need something to write on. I am about to admit something that might even make me more of freak… I carry post-its with me EVERYWHERE. When your mom notices that you’re a bit over the top, it just might be true! Post-its are awesome and they come in multiple sizes and can fit in purses, backpacks, wallets…annnnnnnnd I should stop talking about post-its like they’re my friends.

3. Maybooks (maydesigns.com)

Alright, to follow up my #2 favorite thing, I must talk about the thing that goes along with it… Maybooks are my new obsession! I was given a planner and a journal from a friend for Christmas one year and I instantly fell in love with them. First of all, they are personalized. You can choose if you want initials, your full name, a nickname, or the subject…ANYTHING you want on the cover, can go on the cover. You choose the pattern. And you choose what kind you of maybook you want: a planner, a notebook (3 kinds: lined, graph, or blank), a pregnancy journal, a wedding journal, a baby boy or girl journal, address book, Exercise and calorie journal, budget book, and meal planner… Amazing… and it should be noted that they offer note cards too… ((And they’re really cute!)) The prices for the Maybooks are $20 ($15 for a non-monogrammed Maybook) and for the note cards-$20! What more could you want?! Here’s a picture of mine… It’s always with me… and the compliments I get..it’s worth it. 🙂

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4. So You Think You Can Dance (fox.com/dance)

If you’re looking for a reality TV show that is WORTH WATCHING all summer long (don’t worry, summer ain’t over!) it’s So You Think You Can Dance. I have been watching this show since season 1. I’ve loved watching the choreographers develop their craft and watching the new breeds of dancers that bring all they have to the stage. I love this show because I love dance. I grew up studying ballet and french, because my dance teachers taught our classes in french. I was passionate about it and wanted to end up dancing in New York for a ballet and contemporary company. So my love for this show that shoves its dancers in new genres runs very, very deep. This season already has been jammed packed full of RIDICULOUS dances. My favorite dancers are Paul, Tucker, Jenna and Mackenzie. Trust me. My favorite dances are below.

Paul and Mackenzie Hip Hop http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UC0XO9OD9Yk
Tucker and Jenna Contemporary http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LgWynBsfmOg
Paul and Mackenzie Contemporary http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Asv942CLpRw
Tucker and Jenna Broadway http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW0JyZh7O8U

5. Flip flops.

I am a shoe snob. In fact, I’ve heard I have too many pairs of shoes. My favorite pair of flip flops right now are from Sanuk. They’re made from recycled yoga mats and they are the most comfortable flip flops on the planet. They also cost about $28 but it’ll be the best $28 you’ll spend. If you’re a fan of cheaper flip flops, you can never go wrong with Old Navy or Target. Just today, I was wearing a pair of beaded flip flops from Target that I purchased last year. All this to say, you really can’t go wrong with flip flops.

6 and 7. NYX Mood Change Lipgloss and Ben Nye Banana Powder

I love my makeup products and enjoy trying new things. I followed the lead of a fellow blogger, who shall remain nameless, and she raved about the Dior Lip Glow gloss. I spent $30. Then, I went to Ulta and there was a “deal” on NYX products. NYX intrigued me with their mood gloss, which is the EXACT SAME as Dior. It was $4.99 and a buy one get one. I bought a pink and deep purple hued gloss. This is when I wish I could go back to the Sephora store and give them back their lipgloss they “sold me on” and get my money back. I spent $4.99 for 2 glosses that WORK 10 TIMES BETTER than the name, fancy brand. Might I suggest it to you to do yourself a favor and go to Ulta and buy yourself some NYX Mood Lip Gloss. My second pick on the makeup section is Ben Nye Banana powder. This is also from the “unnamed blogger” but she got it right on this one. I suffer from “Sweating like a boy in the movie Sandlot” syndrome and my makeup always slides off my face by the middle of the afternoon. This powder is a setting powder and it’s also stage makeup. It’s a powder meant to with stand the lights and terrors of showbiz. So I purchased a bottle and hoped for the best. For $15, this product works! It’s awesome. And the great thing is, you don’t need a lot to set your makeup. Perfect for summer nights out… Order at CameraReadyCosmetics.com… You’ll love it.

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8. Music

I’m an avid fan of country music. It’s what I listen to on my way to work. It’s the perfect pick me up on long drives. It’s heart and all American. You can’t go wrong with country! On my current country playlist: Kasey Musgraves, Music from the show Nashville, Hunter Hayes and Justin Adams. I was listening to my playlist and this song started. “If you don’t got 2 kids by 21, you’re probably gonna die alone, at least that’s what tradition tells you…” THANK YOU KASEY for summing up all the thoughts of single girls in their twenties…ESPECIALLY the ones past 21. I’ve never really thought that I was going to die alone, but I did feel like I was going to be a cat lady if I didn’t get married by 25. Guess what? I’m on my way to 27 and I’m still here and NO CATS! 🙂 Nashville… not only is it on my list of places to visit this year, it’s also one of my shows. I love the music. Looking for downloads? Look up Hey Ho and Telescope by Lennon and Maisy, Fade Into You by Sam Palladio and Clare Bowen and Undermine by Charles Esten and Hayden Panettiere. All catchy and wonderfully good. Hunter “Babyface” Hayes… what can be said about this dude that hasn’t already been said?! He’s amazing. Crazy is so freaking good and I find myself creating harmonies around his wonderfully sweet voice. 🙂 If I could sing with a country boy it’d be between Hunter and my newest fave Justin Adams. First of all, if you don’t know Justin Adams, you should. I will be honest and say I didn’t know who he was until his mom (who attends Foundations Church … HI AMY!) shared a review of his record. I read it. And woke up the next day and purchased the record. And now, I can’t quit listening to it. The lyrics are incredible. My 2 favorites: Miss Me Whiskey (another song I find myself singing harmonies with. If Justin ever reads this, DUDE. I’M REALLY GOOD AT HARMONIES AND AM NOT ENTIRELY SCARED OF SINGING ON THE SPOT. 🙂 The chances of him seeing this is pretty slim, but who knows! 🙂 a wannabe country girl can dream). The second: Shut Up and Kiss Me. I almost hit a car when I first heard this song. It’s catchy, it’s fun and girls, let’s be honest… If a guy who I was dating/married to said this to me, I’d lose every fight. I would. I might not kiss you, but I’d sure as heck lose my train of thought and then laugh and maybe kiss you… Who knows.. But for real, this is AMAZING COUNTRY MUSIC and honestly, Justin Adams is well on his way to a wonderfully amazing career among the greats of country music. And I can’t wait to watch it happen!

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Ok… I think the favorites list will end here… Here’s the deal. I will gift a custom Maybook, a Justin Adams record download, and an NYX lipgloss if you share this post and leave some of your favorite things! 🙂 Now… I realize I didn’t word that correctly, so let me rephrase- there will be 3 winners… They will be announced on Thursday, August 1st at 8:00pm. All you have to do-share some of your favorites here and share this post with your friends. 🙂 I LOVE GIVING THINGS AWAY AND CAN’T WAIT TO DO THIS! 🙂

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